The Charismatic Introvert

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Photograph from “JonathanBecker.com”

“…Accordingly, one key prerequisite for charisma would involve possessing, or at least being able to acquire, superior interpersonal, public speaking, or leadership skills. But to assume, as so many do, that introverts, by virtue (or vice!) of their insular, retreating tendencies, must be deficient in such skills—or incapable of developing them—flies in the face of psychologists’ current understanding of social dexterity and intelligence.…It can hardly be overemphasized that what constitutes the essence of the charismatic speaker or leader isn’t really their outgoingness at all. It’s their passion, their conviction, their sincere commitment to a belief, cause, or concern. And these enticing qualities have almost nothing to do with how temperamentally introverted or extroverted they might be….Unquestionably, introverts would be more at ease setting down their ideas alone at a desk than propounding them in a large lecture hall. But when feeling called upon to “go public,” as long as they feel confident about who they are and convinced of their subject’s importance, their possibly somewhat restrained but nonetheless impassioned delivery can be just as persuasive—or charismatic—as any extrovert’s. 

Curiously, buried within almost every introvert is . . . an extrovert. Published on May 21, 2014 by Leon F. Seltzer, Ph.D. in Evolution of the Self. To read the full post at Psychology Today  please click here.

An introverted personality may be useful, comfortable and even attractive in certain contexts at certain points of our lives. However this may become an impediment in other situations or life times. If our introverted way of thinking, feeling and behaving is limiting or incommoding us in any way, we ca learn to modify it, to change those aspects of our experience that makes us define ourselves as introverts. As animals of habit that we are, we get used to ways of doing things, ways of thinking and ways of feeling. But those can be modified, as long as the new desired experiences are realistic, healthy and achievable within a negotiated length of time. With the contribution of hypnotherapy we can learn techniques that may help us develop those personality traits that we feel are necessary for us at a particular point in our life. Taking the example described in the above post, regarding a possible fear of public speaking enhanced by an introverted personality: With a methodical mental practice from a hypnotic state we can develop and strengthen our confidence, we can reinforce our convictions regarding the subject we want to talk about, and we can learn to focus our attention outward, amongst other things, so that we do not feel the need to constantly monitor ourselves and feel able to enjoy concentrating on the content of our speech.

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About Anna Pons

Certificat (CPPD), Post Graduat Certificat (PGCert) i Post Graduat Diploma (PGD) en Hipnoteràpia Clínica, London College of Clinical Hypnosis (LCCH) i Universitat de West London (UWL)
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