Interesting article exploring the effects of romantic love and sex on the brain and discussing how the arrival of children may disrupt the balance in a relationship. Examining the findings of researcher Art Aron, the romantic love guru from Stony Brook University, in New York, whose studies look inside the brains of couples in love. Also including few tips on “How Do We Keep the Spark of Love Alive?:
- Generosity – Being helpful and considerate in small and large ways, doing our fair share of chores, stepping in to allow our partner to take a break.
- Positivity – Focusing on and communicating about our partner’s positive qualities. Showing appreciation and affection on a regular basis.
- Attachment – Allowing our partners to turn to us and depend on us when they are vulnerable; providing a secure emotional base and reassurance of worth.
- Expansion – Helping our partners to expand their worlds by engaging in novel and challenging activities together and bringing in our own passion for life.
With hypnotherapy we can work on understanding and developing the above skills, as well as the following:
Respect: Giving yourself and your partner time apart, a distance that will allow you to see your partner in social situations, remind you of how they were when you met, and why you liked them in the first place.
Individual growth: Working on your own individual value, developing your own interests and learning to accept yourself and others as fallible human beings; learning to like yourself so that your partner can share that attraction.
Through the practice of hypnosis each one of us may be able to investigate which of those skills and behaviours we master or lack, as well as others which we may be able to formulate ourselves.